7 Things You Should Know About Sex, According to Science

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Besides the reason Mother Nature intended, sex has so many more personal health and happiness benefits than you might think. Did you know that having sex when you're older is good for your health? Or that women want it just as much as men? (Actually, you probably did already know about that one.) The only issue with sex is that we don't talk about it enough. The typically taboo topic often makes us blush at the mere utterance of the word, but it's time to break free from our sheepish shackles and be empowered by it-these surprising things will make you sexier.

So in that vein, we're starting our own sex education and highlighting seven key things everyone should know about sex, backed by science. From the positions to the personality traits that increase your chances, we guarantee you'll learn something new about this intimate act we all love.

While comes as no surprise to most of us, now science finally backs us up: Women want to have sex. In fact, according to a new study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology,В men in long-term relationships have been underestimating their female partner's level of sexual desire. Director of the Sexual Health Promotion Laboratory at the University of Kentucky, Kristen Mark, told The Wall Street Journal,В "The assumption that women are going to be the lower-desire partner needs to be thrown out."В And we 100% concur.В

The takeaway: Communicate with your partner. Don't be shy about your desires, be empowered by your sexuality, and feel comfortable initiating sex. It takes two to tango.

If you truly want to improve your sex life and pleasure your partner, don't refer to articles with clickbait headlines such as "11 Orgasm Hacks You Need to Try" or "11 Things You Need to Do in Bed That He Secretly Loves." The only way you're going to find out what he or she really desires is by asking.В According to sex researcher Nicole Prause, if we really want to "blow our partner'sВ mind in bed," then we need to start having more intimate conversationsВ about what we like and what we don't.

"No one wants to be dumb at sex," saidВ Prause in an interview with New YorkВ magazine. "But the expertise isn't embedded in the information, it's embedded in the individual."В And the more sexual experiences we have the higher chance of success. AВ 2012 study published in The American Sociological ReviewВ found that "the best predictor of female orgasm in young women is the number of sexual experiences with a partner." So more talking and more doing.В

The takeaway: Before you open a magazine or click on that headline, ask your partner what he/she likes or dislikes, and vice versa.В

Since we're in the spirit of debunking age-old myths, here's another one for you: People do have sex in old age, and it's especially good for their health. A study published inВ The Journal of Health and Social BehaviourВ found women between the ages of 57 and 85 who have sex at least once a week in the later stages of life lowered their risk ofВ high blood pressure. The study's author, Hui Liu, said that an active sex life can greatly improve "both mental and physical health." No wonderВ older people are happier, too.

The takeaway: Don't let your age determine the quality of your sex drive. Enjoy life and feel liberated by each year.В

With our busy schedule, often the only time we have left in the day is at night and usually in bed. However, this isn't a great formula for sex success since we're usually exhausted and consequently not always in the best mood (although sex can definitely turn that around). Turns out there is a scientifically proven time of the day for optimal sexВ but it's not good news for those who work within traditional office hours. A report in the Daily Mail found that 3 p.m. is the best time to have sex.В Hormone expert Alisa Vitti said not only are men more interested in initiating sex at this time, but they also give women more emotional support. If you can't test it out during the week, then try a little afternoon delight this weekend.

The takeaway: Don't leave it until your too tired to do it right. If you're not home during the day, then plan a rare afternoon rendezvousВ with your partner during the weekend. It will be totally worth it.

Have you tried numerous sex positionsВ but always end up going back to the same old missionary or doggy style? Well, you're not alone. In fact, according to The Cut, there are only six positions used commonly in heterosexual intercourse: missionary, cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, doggy style, spooning, and standing. The rest? You know, the ones that are widely promoted across men's magazines or Cosmopolitan are just variations of those six styles.

"Despite what the sex-position-industrial complex would have you believe, there is not an endless number of ways to get it on," writes editor Gabriella Paiella. "This isn't to say that anyone attempting to make sex more interesting is wasting their time. There are innumerable ways to get creative in bed that don't involve consulting a manual and doing hamstring stretches in preparation." So don't be ashamed of your favorite standard sex position, because everybody's doing it too.В

The takeaway: Give up on the Kama Sutra and just enjoy the sex positions you already know. Then get better at them.

Contrary to popular belief, more sex doesn't equate to increased happiness.В A new study from researchers at the University of Toronto found thatВ people who only have sex once a week are, in fact, the happiest.В Research head Amy Muise wrote: "For the average person, havingВ sexВ more frequently than once a week was not associated with greater happiness, but it wasn't associated with less happiness, either."

Many couples feel the pressure to have it more often, but Muise says it's time to turn the tension down. "It's important to maintain a sexual connection with a romantic partner, but it's also important to have realistic expectations for one'sВ sexВ life," she said.

The takeaway: Don't guilt trip yourself for not having it enough. More isn't always better.

If you want to get intimate more often, science says you should be a nicer person. A new studyВ В published in the British Journal of Psychology foundВ people who are highly agreeable have more sex.В Since the study was based on self-evaluation and reporting, there are plenty of variables, which means room for error, but we're fairly certain you don't need science to prove this as fact. So, it's time to change that well-known cliché to "nice girls finish first."В

The takeaway: Just be a nicer person. Not only will it improve your sex life, but it will make everything else in your life better too. So just do it.

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